“You are the light of my life; my sun, moon and stars. You are my everything. Without you, I have no reason for being. How much do I love you? Count the stars in the sky. Measure the waters of the oceans with a teaspoon. Number the grains of sand on the sea shore. Impossible, you say? My love for you is higher than the heavens, deeper than Hades, and broader than the earth. It has no limits, no bounds. Everything must have an ending except my love for you.”—
Happiness in actuality appears to be negligible in comparison to the overcompensations for misery. Stability isn’t nearly as great as instability. And being content does not inhabit the opulence of a virtuous fight against adversity. It does not paint the picture of a struggle with temptation….or a an defeat by passion..or doubt. Truthfully…happiness is never ostentatious. It is modest.
“It’s important to realize that no matter what crazy thought that enters your head, there’s now a minor media outlet out there willing to tell you that you are right…And we get trapped in the sort of reality dysmorphia, this idea that we can just view what it is that we want to see in the world without that actually being attached to reality.”—Clay Johnson on a healthier “Information Diet”
“Knowing how to be solitary is central to the art of loving. When we can be alone, we can be with others without using them as a means of escape.”—Bell Hooks, All About Love: New Visions (via transformfeminism)
“”—Stop trying to “get it together.” The biggest lie we’re told when we’re growing up is that soon as we’re adults, as soon as we’re in college, finish college, get that job, have that steady income, find that someone special, “find ourselves,” find that perfect house, get that retirement fund, have those children, everything will fall into place. Here’s a secret: it won’t. Every new development in your life, good or bad, big or small, will come with its own very special set of challenges. The sooner you accept that, the better off you’ll be. But the myth is perpetuated throughout life, perhaps now more than ever with happy status updates on Facebook and blushing bride/happy multi-tasking mommy blog posts. What these success stories don’t tell you is what is going on behind closed doors. They don’t tell you that your friend who is so over the moon with her new baby had to apply for food stamps. They don’t tell you that your fantastic, involved professor struggles with depression. They don’t tell you that your happily married friend still has nightmares about her abusive ex. They don’t tell you the cousin who just got that jealousy-inducing job opportunity is thinking of breaking up with his boyfriend of 10 years. What closely interacting with people from all backgrounds on the Internet for over a decade has taught me is that no one “has it together” in the way we think they do. So stop trying to have that as your goal, because you are just setting yourself up for massive failure.
It is implausible to think that I will not always be stressed, will ever escape my own neuroses and make it out of the labyrinthine mold that has made me fit to the expectations this world—but i refuse to not try, to not live. There’s a part of myself that rejects the job security and mortgages and cradles…and feigns the roads less traveled, the experiences, and the adventures.
Is it crazy to fathom that one would leave all they’ve built…the challenges overcome, the success, the accomplishments….just to start over again?…to have a dozen new lives in the span of each standard deviation…to not know what tomorrow will bring? Sounds crazy, I know. But security is not sacred to me. And I only want laugh lines…never crows’ feet.
“Why should there be hunger and privation in any land, in any city, at any table when we have the resources and the scientific know-how to provide all humankind with the basic necessities of life? There is no deficit in human resources; the deficit is in human will.”—Martin Luther King Jr.
“The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.”
“You don’t know what goes on in anyone’s life but your own. And when you mess with one part of a person’s life, you’re not messing with just that part. Unfortunately, you can’t be that precise and selective. When you mess with one part of a person’s life, you’re messing with their entire life. Everything… affects everything.”—Jay Asher, Thirteen Reasons Why
“Some things you’re not letting happen right now because the timing isn’t perfect for you. Some you’re not letting happen because you are very aware of where you are. But all things, as they are happening, are happening in perfect order. And if you will relax and begin saying, “Everything in its perfect time. Everything is unfolding. And I’m enjoying where I am now, in relationship to where I’m going. Content where I am, and eager for more,” that is the perfect vibrational stance.”
“Female parenting is significant and valuable work which must be recognized as such by everyone in society, including feminist activists. It should receive deserved recognition, praise and celebration within a feminist context where there is renewed effort to rethink the nature of motherhood; to make motherhood neither a compulsory experience for women nor an exploitative or oppressive one….”—bell hooks in Feminist Theory: From Margin to Center
I think back to myself 2 years ago. And I look at myself today. Things are not perfect, and i know they never will be. That’s life. I’ve lost relationships & gained new ones…I still have insecurities…but I better realize my strengths…I’m still making mistakes, but I learn from each of them.
imperfection in its own way is beautiful…trust your struggle.